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Bullying and our childrens future

In the last few weeks we have all heard about stopping the bullying that has been going on in our Childrens schools. This all stemmed from the sad death of a youth who was stabbed by another student. What’s amazing is that not one person has discussed that children learn from what parents model, because children copy what we do and say. I’m sure that I’m not the only one who has suffered at the hands of an aggressive or passive-aggressive person. In our society passive-aggressiveness is encouraged and for most its the only way that people get what they want or need. When we yell and scream at our partner, when we swear and call people names, when we use passive-aggressiveness, we inadvertently show our children how to behave..._read more here.

How stress impacts on all our lives

I had an interesting conversation with a client in the last few days. She was complaining how she quite often feels unhappy, is down and struggles with motivation. She does work full-time, has a family to look after and is always on the go. When I asked her when she had some time for herself, she took quite sometime to think of how long ago she did do something just for herself. I asked her this question: “If I asked you and your husband to stop doing anything to your car, that is you can’t check the oil or water levels, you are not allowed to fill up with petrol, no checking of tires etc. how long do you think you would be able to last using your car?” She gave me this funny look and said, “I’d run out of petrol tomorrow as I have less than half a tank!” Well” I said, “how can you keep running your body and mind down by doing all these things in your life, before you run out of petrol"?..._read more here.

Some simple tricks to REALLY have a great relationship

You know, there are literary thousands of articles, books, educational movies about how to have a great relationship. Why would I want to add another article about relationships? Well…because I see so many relationship that are failing, or have already gone beyond any help, and it really saddens me to see people who once loved each other, fall apart. So I just thought I’d add my 5 cents worth to the already overflowing advice on how to have a wonderful and fulfilling relationship. I do however hope that I may add a few things that will make a difference in your life.

1. The saying goes that in a relationship its 50/50 percent. Well I would say that each person can give 100%. So before you even get started on making your relationship better, you need to be able to say that you are focused 100% on fulfilling your partners needs and desires, and the same should be with your partner. Only then will you have the start of a sound foundation for your relationship to build on..._read more here

Depression: a direct result of too much stress in our lives

Would you know if were depressed? If you are like most people, you will be busy working, looking after your children, trying to make ends meet and going shopping along with so many other responsibilities. Our life has become so busy to not only survive but also make us and our family happy.

Happiness in our society can sometimes by linked to the amount of money you create, the type of home you own, the brand of car you drive, or the suburb you live in. Most of us work so hard to provide this life for the ones we love and therefore sacrifice many other things in our life along the way. The decision that we make can lead us to become frustrated and depressed. about the choice how much time we spend with our family, where we take them for a holiday or restaurants or buy them the things they need and desire...._read more here

Assertive rights: your right to be treated well

Many of the situations we are in that turn sour, is because of the inability to assert ourselves and express our need and right to be treated well and with respect. However, so often I talk to people who tell me about their inability to be assertive and demand that people treat them with respect. Many times, they allow others to control them, because they become aggressive towards the submissive person, so therefore because they are intimidated they just allow others to get their way..._read more here

Are you intelligent emotionally?

People everywhere are different in the way they live their lives, some are more outgoing and make connection with others easily and while others struggle to talk to someone they have just met. Some people find it difficult to be assertive, rather they are submissive or aggressive and what both the later have in common is they are unable to effectively communicate their needs and wants to others. They either get what they want at the detriment of friendships or sacrifice their life to accommodate and be accepted by others..._read more here